Paige and Jeffrey’s wedding was an emotional day. It was emotional for Paige and Jeffrey, for their friends and family, and even for me and Brandon. It was the type of day that when its all happening you know its special but when its all said and done, you need time to reflect on the day. My good friend, Brandon, photographed Paige and Jeffrey’s wedding with me and while he’s an incredibly creative photographer, he’s equally an incredibly creative writer. I asked him to write about the day, here’s what he had to say.
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The craziest part about what we (wedding photographers) get to do for a living is in the immediate forefront of not only the utterly obvious but also the undeniably pure. We get to document love. Plain and simple. Personally I have not spent enough time talking about what a gift this actually is, besides the occasional social media post where I use words like #grateful, #humble, and #blessed, I don’t think we accurately talk about what it is we experience and why it is important. Gene asked me to write a few words about this wedding I second shot with him. Here is where my heart and my hands landed.
Peace of mind proclaims in the most steadfast of manners: “Here is where my heart will stay”, it proclaims this pages and pages beyond the marks we made on the book of love from when we were young, and that place, that fabled, harmonious, unrelinquishable place just so happens to be in the bareness of your fist unfolded, beautiful beyond words, beautiful beyond truths. In our youth, as we learn to love we derive much more than pure sentiment in our wanderings. In our youth we find the reasons for why we should put forth our hand in the first place, we extend our reach not to stumble along dark passageways searching for the switch, but to traverse with confidence down a dimly lit corridor waiting for a hope to hold on to, a hope that reciprocates the very idea of the journey we want to take. Jeffrey and Paige are living symbols that this hope can be found. Not only are they dancing on the very outskirts of their youth, but they are holding each other more mature than a lifetime of relationships I’ve seen. The thing I want to emphasize the most is that I am writing this after only being in the presence of their company for a handful of hours. It was clear from the moment Gene and I arrived at the venue as he went upstairs where the bride is sequestered, sentimental and serene surrounded by the likes of a modern day queen and I to the basement where the boys stay steadfast in their emotional will, joking and jovially reliving memories, that today we were going to witness and be able to pay testament to something that the word “beautiful” was created for. It was in the first early hours of arriving, having only two names to put to faces that I was plunged into one of the most memorable celebrations of matrimony I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing. One recurring phrase that kept being brought up in jest during the speeches was that Paige + Jeffery were an “annoyingly adorable” couple and it made me think more emotionally rather than physically about the wonderful benefits of bearing witness. Take that which you strive for relationally and seep the feeling deep into your intentions. Love is a state of vulnerability and I think everyone deserves what I saw on this day. The reciprocation of what wedding photographers do for their clients and what their clients do for them is unfathomably hard to put into words.
In closing I’d like to say that relationships are hard and that is all part of the progression and the pretense. The very first people on this earth to ever profess a mutual love were the very first ones to ever be marred by an evil’s bane, and so our mortal souls continued to fight off the fury that comes with the rising tides and the roaring winds also known as adversity and sin, but as long as the cord is tied tight, as long as the prominence never plateaus, as pleasure plants itself a seed within the one we choose to carry with us through the fire, well, then, I truly don’t think the stings and barbs of temptation and tribulation could ever settle on our skin. May these feelings continue to shine, as luminous as backlit leaves on early summer evenings.
Cavalier – James Vincent McMorrow